1. mentally-illectric:

    things i needed to hear in health class:

    • puberty might make you squishier and its ok
    • vaginas have a smell and it’s a ok
    • all kinds of people with all kinds of bodies have gr8 sex
    • genitals do not all look the same and variety is rad
    • people have stretch marks sometimes
    • people have pimples on their butts sometimes
    • people have cellulite sometimes
    • gender =/= sex
    • sex =/= scary danger FEAR
    • bodies aren’t scary or gross or sacred 
    • everything is ok

    (via queerkenosis)

  2. gendeer-queer:



    Clothes don’t have a gender.

    ok but “male” and “female” pronouns = cissexist

    pronouns, like clothing, have no gender

    example on how to say what pronouns you use “I want to be referred to with he/him/his pronouns.” or “I want to be referred to with she/her/hers pronouns.”

    (via queerkenosis)

  3. teenhealthsource:

    Tips for Safer and More Pleasurable Anal Play

    When we say “anal play,” we’re talking about a whole range of sexual activities that involve your butt! These can include things like:

    • Putting fingers around/inside someone’s butt
    • Putting a tongue around/inside someone’s butt (rimming)
    • Putting a penis inside someone’s butt
    • Putting a dildo or other sex toy inside someone’s butt
    • Putting a hand inside someone’s butt (fisting)

    Folks of all gender identities and sexual orientations can enjoy anal play if they feel comfortable doing that, as long as it happens with everyone’s consent.

    What are the risks?

    Like most sexual activities, if anal play happens with a partner there can be risks of infection.

    Here are some tips for making anal play more comfortable that can also reduce the risk of experiencing discomfort or getting an STI:

    • Talk to you partner before engaging in anal play about what each of you want the experience to be like
    • Use condoms on sex toys and penises, gloves on hands and dental dams for oral/rimming. Don’t put things in or around the vulva/vagina if they have been in the butt, unless you wash them or use a new condom
    • Take it slow: if you are inserting things, start with smaller toys/less fingers and work your way up. Use lots of lube
    • During anal play, check in with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t. Ask “does this feel good?” and “Do you like it when I…?” This will help make sure they are comfortable and is also important to make sure you have ongoing and enthusiastic consent

    Visit Teen Health Source for more information on sexual health, puberty and relationships. And, if you live in Toronto, you can speak to a trained peer volunteer who can answer your questions by text, online chat, or phone

  4. teenhealthsource:

    Getting called out and how to apologize

    Oh no! You accidentally said something super hurtful, and someone called you out on it. Now what?

    Apologizing can be one of the most difficult things to do. We are all in different places in our learning, and we all mess up in big ways. Here are some tips for making meaningful apologies:

    - acknowledge and own what you have done wrong. Use “I” statements (for example “I am sorry that I….”

    - say why what you did was problematic. For example, say something like “What I just said was super transphobic. When I said that, I was perpetuating negative stereotypes about trans people, and that’s messed up.”

    - commit to change your behavior. For example, “I’ll be sure not to do that again.”

    - support the person you harmed in their self care. Say, “I know you might be feeling really hurt right now. Is there anything I can do to support you?” Offer to buy them lunch, or to take their shift at work so they have time to care for themself. Know that anything you do won’t make up for what you have done, but is part of your process of accountability

    Strategies for Solidarity:

    - Step back. Let the people you are trying to be in solidarity with do what they need to do on their own, and then volunteer your time and resources to help out

    - Be sensitive. Recognize when your being at an event would disrupt the space/ prevent others from being there, and don’t go. For example, if there’s a panel about transphobia with limited space and you’re cis, you going might prevent trans people from being there. And if you’re white and there’s an event specifically for people of colour, you going can make people feel unsafe

    - Be supportive. Support the decisions of the people you are trying to be in solidarity with

    Visit Teen Health Source for more information on sexual health, puberty and relationships. And, if you live in Toronto, you can speak to a trained peer volunteer who can answer your questions by text, online chat, or phone

  5. teenhealthsource:


    Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots

    A great Scarleteen article on intimacy by Heather Corinna with a few cute example illustrations! More illustrations in the article :)

    Check out this awesome article from Scarleteen!

  6. spread the word!! 


  7. Super exciting accessibility stuff!

    Hey folks! All of our resources now have image descriptions, so they are now accessible to people who use screen readers or who would prefer to read the resources rather than look at the images!

    COMING SOON: Captions for all of our videos!


  8. A huge thank you to everyone who came out to our event on Saturday! We’ll be posting answers to the anonymous sex ed questions we received later this week.

  9. Image description: [A poster whose background is two overlapping circles on a cream background. The bright orange circle disappears into the upper left corner and the bright yellow circle disappears into the bottom right corner.

    Large white text on the orange circle reads: Filling in the Blanks. Black text below it says: Queer and Trans Sex Ed by and for Youth. It continues in white text: A project of Planned Parenthood Toronto, in partnership with the 519, Sherbourne Health Centre, and Youthline.

    White and yellow text on the overlapping circles reads:
    Fun activities including: a photobooth, speaker’s corner, an interactive art project, button making, and workshops!

    On the yellow circle, orange text reads:
    The 519 Room 106/100
    519 Church St, Near Wellesley Station
    Saturday, June 21
    12:00 PM - 5:00 PM
    An event for folks under 30
    ASL interpreters available
    Childcare subsidies available
    Kids are welcome too!
    Feel free to drop in anytime!

    On the bottom left is the Planned Parenthood logo featuring two blue letter Ps with the second one reversed so that they overlap. The inside of the letters is lime green. Beneath it is the CommunityOne Foundation logo, featuring a sketched circle above the word Community, which is in orange. This is followed by the word One in navy blue, and the word Foundation, also in navy, is below it.

    Near the very bottom left of the image, orange text reads:
    Connect with us:
    Twitter: queeringsexed
    Tumblr: queeringsexed.com ]
    End image description.

    Click through for the Facebook event page. We’ll be updating the Tumblr and the FB event with more information as it becomes available.

    We would love to see you there!


  10. Resource List Available

    We have reorganized our page to make it easier to find all of our resources! Now you can simply click on the Resource List header on any of our pages or simply go to http://queeringsexed.com/resources